Over the course of this journey, I have had many people congratulate me on my success but make excuse after excuse as to why they can't lose weight. I have always known HOW to lose weight, but for the most part, just chose not to. Other than the general, "It's too hard!", which really means, "I'm too lazy or not ready to make a change!", I didn't make excuses or try to blame my food addiction and weight problem on others.
I wrote and posted this to FB this morning....
It is extremely difficult at times to look in the mirror and say, "You screwed up!", or "You made bad choices." I survived an extremely abusive marriage. I was beaten on many occasions, hospitalized more than once, and nearly died twice. He sounds horrible, right? But, I made choices. I chose him. I chose to forgive him. I chose to make excuses for him. I chose to stay. I chose that life. I WAS HORRIBLE TO MYSELF in those moments.
For thirty years I have chosen the same sort of abusive relationship with food. I've made good efforts to diet and exercise here and there, but have always given up and gone back to the same fat me. I think many people stay in abusive relationships because it's often easier than the alternative or the unknown. I knew if I didn't get out of that marriage, he was going to kill me. Much like, I knew if I didn't change my relationship with food, I was going to kill myself. (Can't blame the food.)
I just watched "Obesity: The Post Mortem" on Netflix over the last couple of days. I haven't been tempted to quit or give up at all, but if I needed any sort of kick in the pants, this was it. Fat isn't just unattractive, it's harmful and dangerous. I feel so sorry for my organs and innards. I hope to correct as much damage as I possibly can and plan to keep up a healthy lifestyle FOREVER!
If you're struggling to lose weight and want to change your life (for the better), you have to first come to terms with the fact that there is no one else to blame for your current condition.
While there are many things that may make your journey challenging, it is NOT impossible. Don't blame your genetics, your body, your spouse, your kids, your employers for stocking the break room with doughnuts, or whatever or whoever else you can find to blame. Instead, look in the mirror, apologize to yourself and tell yourself that you are worth the struggle. Take back your power!